"Why does asking for help make a person feel so vulnerable?"

"Why does asking for help make a person feel so vulnerable?" Thats a question i have asked myself time and time again, It's hard not to jump to believing its because it deprives a person the freedom to fail. 

When a person attempts to do somthing entirely on their own, the consequences of failure belong solely on them, so in truth it's part about a person's agency, and the Dignity of Risk. 

There is a profound dignity in being able to say, "I went , I fought, I lost." That belongs to you. It proves you are an independent agent. 

When you ask for help, it can feel like you surrender a piece of that total control. If you fail after asking for help, it feels like compromised failure, 

you couldn't do it alone, and you still couldn't do it with a safety net. 

It robs you of the clean-solo effort. 

That's the Fear anyways. 

You tell yourself,

"If you can't fail on your own, you can't truly succeed on your own either" 

But.

True independence isn't about existing in a controlled cage. It’s about authorship.

Think of a great director making a movie, or a scientist curing a disease. They don't do it alone.

When you ask for help, you aren't surrendering your freedom, your taking a chance to succeed.

Sometimes it's hard to remember that,

But trying is all we can do :)